"For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone." - Audrey Hepburn
If you asked me three years ago what it meant to be beautiful, I'd say you'd have to be this super sexy woman who was skinny and had a perfect beach body with long flowing hair and big boobs. I would have said, screw the Dove commercials. If you're not fit and pretty you aren't considered beautiful.
The new me would have wanted to put the mind of my old self in the palm of my hand and throw it off the side of a ship.
Are you kidding me?
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE BEAUTIFUL?!
To be beautiful, you as a person must be able to stand in front of the mirror and say, wow. I'm amazing.
You need to be selfish.
You need to be cocky.
You need to be in love with yourself.
We hear it too many times - one must love themselves before they love anyone else. Confidence that comes from within that can mirror what you are carrying on the outside, is pure.
What is PERFECTION?
You mean, what is bullshit?
How on earth are we supposed to live a life under the impression that the 'perfect' job aligns with the 'perfect' partner with the 'perfect' lifestyle. How?
Not saying that the word itself is bogus. Rather let's take a step back and rephrase the three piece system of the balanced life: The idea that your work, relationship and lifestyle graciously hold one another together to create a BALANCED life - for YOU.
Sometimes it can take years before we can find this balance. Before we get out of debt, before we find love, before we start our lives... years. We need to do things on our own (i.e. without someone holding your hand in the process) to balance the three part scale in order to see it.
In amongst this perfection is a mask that we fail, most of the time, to see the beauty that lies within.
Have you ever stood in front of the mirror and looked at yourself, like really looked at yourself?
Have you ever looked at your facial expressions?
Have you ever turned around, naked, and looked at your rear reflection with another mirror and checked out the shape of your rear?
Have you ever looked at yourself dead in the face and said "I love me"?
I never used to.
I started a daily trend. We all know how we look in the morning... At least I know how I do. So I would stand in front of that mirror and compliment myself.
I'm Richelle and I love my hair. I love my freckles. I love my cool dimples on my face. I think my little nose is neat. My boobs are so cute and small they just sit so nice on my chest. I like my little hands. I think the tattoo of my anchor on my foot is badass. I love that my eyes look like icy oceans. I love that little freckle below my lip. I think my butt is awesome because I built it myself.
I could go on and on.
I carried this trend on until I started to believe that beauty does come from within. It's a hard exercise... But the best thing about it was that I didn't have to do a single thing to my body to make me believe that I was beautiful. I am just as much Richelle as I was 5 years ago. 10 years ago. 20 years ago. I'll always be who I am and I love ME FOR ME.
I challenge everyone to do the same thing. Try it on... Try complimenting yourself. Check yourself out in the glass windows of buildings as you walk by. Give yourself a pat on the back for being a HUMAN. You were given life, you can do things.
Try it on.
The biggest change that I saw within myself once I was able to love myself wholly, was that I was a lot more willing to open up to others to let them see the real side of me. I was able to be myself. My trust issues? Vamonos. What is the point of holding in resentment towards a superficial idea that something might happen? Let it go, and let life take you where it needs to. We get so caught up in past memories that we prevent ourselves from making new ones...
Trust the love of yourself to guide you through the obstacles of life.
Trust that these obstacles are just a way of learning the greatest lessons.
Most importantly, let yourself be open and RAW to what life will bring you. The moment we let our hearts run wild, is the moment we truly experience the beauty of life.
Providing you with the knowledge that I encounter on a daily basis through my fitness lifestyle.